Recently there has been a campaign in India called “The Kiss of Love” that has triggered a mass conversation about the freedom of kissing. In India, you can be arrested if you are an unmarried couple kissing, and it is even frowned upon if you are married and kissing. Basically, there is no kissing in public, whatsoever. But of course, you can whip out your penis and piss anywhere you want, or pull down your pants and crap in someone’s doorstep, abuse your wife and legally rape her, punch each other on the road…..but no kissing. Because apparently that’s “against Indian culture” all of a sudden.
(Except in the Kama Sutra – written in India, by an Indian, and is an innately sacred Hindu text – there are over 30 types of kissing and was it was recognized as a physical way to express feelings, emotions, and passions….)
Anti-activists have been blaming “Western culture”, as usual….of course I am unsure which of the 60+ Western countries they are talking about who clearly have more personal freedom than them. And that’s really what it comes down to, I feel – a protest for freedom, and a protest against moral policing. Because really, what’s so bad about a kiss? What’s so bad about love? What’s so bad about uncontrolled love? Is the mere concept of uncontrolled love threatening? A kiss is a sweet, romantic gesture between two consenting adults that is utterly innocent. Personally, I love seeing couples kiss in public. I always think “awwww what a sweet couple” and wish them the best for their lives.
To many conservative Indians, kissing is seen as a vulgarity. They prefer that people do it behind closed doors. They view kissing and even hugging as very sexual, as borderline pornography. Basically, it is a deeply conservative mindset.
Clearly, there is something a little threatening about young people expressing themselves and exerting their own life choices – which hurt no one – and is nobody’s business. If conservative people don’t like what two consenting adults are doing, then they can surely look away. Nobody is forcing them to watch or partake in it. Or is that too much to ask? Is it too much to ask that two young people can fall in love and make their own decisions? That young people can be in charge of their own sexuality and whom to love, and not ask 5,783 relatives what to do first.